Mum of TWO.

Wife.

Frenchie Lover.

A self confessed Disney Princess waiting also waiting on her letter to Hogwarts.
After the (very) recent and raw loss of my son Reggie Edward Gill at 15+4 weeks I decided to share my thoughts and ramblings of life after loss.

Nothing can quite prepare you for the way your life will change once you have that little piece of your heart ripped out - for it leaves the biggest hole.

Grief can affect us in many ways.

I have experienced so many different emotions in the short space of time surrounding the passing of my boy - but I didn’t want to remember him with this big cloud of sadness hanging over my head, I don’t want my days that follow after loss to be sad ones - Jaxon (my eldest) deserves to have a happy Mum that smiles fondly when speaking of his younger brother.
I founded the Second Star To The Right with a mission to end baby loss being a subject we tread lightly around or avoid altogether.

In speaking out and sharing our experiences it might just make it that little bit more bearable for people to address the Elephant in the Room with a little more kindness and compassion and not feel so uncomfortable when the issue of baby & childhood loss is mentioned.

So many women feel the need to keep what they have been through to themselves and by doing so cannot allow themselves to grieve for their lost baby, still using that motherly instinct to protect - only instead of being able to protect their children they are protecting those around them from the hurt and pain they endured due to making them feel uncomfortable hearing about it for that short space of time.
1 in 4 pregnancies will result in a loss.

A statistic I had no idea about until I became that 1. 

I wish I had of known then what I know now.

It definitely wouldn’t have prepared me for what was about to happen but I would have taken comfort knowing I wasn’t alone, and I knew exactly where I could turn to for support or just a listening ear from someone that understood me, really understood how my life had changed forever from that point in time.

There isn’t enough openly available support for women like myself...we have to almost go finding it ourselves.

Hopefully this page can be the start of that support finding you.

Through social media, your own experiences, that of friends, let’s get talking about this subject, put an end to the uncomfortableness and show that it IS ok to speak out - every story deserves to be heard.
Take some time to explore the blog, read something interesting, and feel free to reach out - even if it’s just to say hello! 

Lots of love,

Michelle xXx